tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post8551230944594491409..comments2023-10-02T16:19:55.641+01:00Comments on A dad's perspective: Family dynamicsMatt Davishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-91258939772643595812014-12-11T00:32:11.592+00:002014-12-11T00:32:11.592+00:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03361286358896892000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-43001970198489059032014-08-02T19:14:55.845+01:002014-08-02T19:14:55.845+01:00Thank you - appreciated. Jon Snow is a great suppo...Thank you - appreciated. Jon Snow is a great supporter of autism causes. All the best, MattMatt Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-12345662560392100312014-07-07T17:46:43.647+01:002014-07-07T17:46:43.647+01:00Hi Katherine
Thanks so much. Love the way you pla...Hi Katherine <br />Thanks so much. Love the way you plan to educate your other kids - 'sometimes ignore' - yes absolutely! Thanks for reading and feeding back - makes the blog worthwhile. MattMatt Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-44190987219136606672014-07-03T20:53:59.994+01:002014-07-03T20:53:59.994+01:00Hi Zoe
Thanks for writing. Your plans to set up a ...Hi Zoe<br />Thanks for writing. Your plans to set up a school sound inspired. Helping students' flexibility sounds wise. Best of luck with it - I admire your spirit greatly. MattMatt Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-91415233018787847852014-07-03T20:51:11.432+01:002014-07-03T20:51:11.432+01:00Hello Alison
Thank you. It's great when people...Hello Alison<br />Thank you. It's great when people identify! So glad to hear your son's anxiety levels have reduced. Gives me hope and positivity knowing that special school can impact the controlling behaviour. Thanks for sharing. Matt<br />Matt Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-41713055970834064502014-07-02T21:19:37.756+01:002014-07-02T21:19:37.756+01:00I hear you. Ships in the night. Our middle son has...I hear you. Ships in the night. Our middle son has autism and it is massive for the others but I believe they will be kinder. We will raise them to help and care, to protect and sometimes ignore ; ) bless them. You do your best but I won't let it rule us. With love in our hearts little man... Suck it up.<br /><br />Great blog. Keep inspiring us, challenging us and helping us try to be the best we can be.Katherinehttp://www.unitedinsite.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-61716513809604205392014-06-30T19:14:04.289+01:002014-06-30T19:14:04.289+01:00Hi there
Thank you very much. It's reassuring ...Hi there<br />Thank you very much. It's reassuring hearing people who've been through the same experiences. That's interesting you should have worries re your eldest daughter who's had to compromise so much. I've begun to think about Tabitha and what the effects could be on her. There's a big expectation there I guess. We're working on getting support and making things better - thanks for asking.<br />Matt Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771082590470237027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-61277145274368722592014-06-28T23:17:43.739+01:002014-06-28T23:17:43.739+01:00Jon Snow led me to you - thanks for sharing your f...Jon Snow led me to you - thanks for sharing your family experiences. Your determination and love for your family shine through and help us to understand your experiences. Can only wish you 'good luck'. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-53870944120060429662014-06-28T12:59:36.491+01:002014-06-28T12:59:36.491+01:00'He has an inbred inflexibility that so, so li...'He has an inbred inflexibility that so, so limits what he can do. And the upshot? A segregated, slightly sad family life.'<br />Yes the inflexibility inherent in autism......that's why our family has put all our resources (time and money) into setting up a school that helps students to become more flexible, and better regulated emotionally. www.brightfuturesschool.co.uk For us, flexibility of thought (and consequent improvements in adaptive behaviour) are key. I hope Isaac finds an approach that helps to do this in his new school.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04470117358751873196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-63888083335400636202014-06-28T09:58:53.284+01:002014-06-28T09:58:53.284+01:00Wow. This has brought tears to my eyes. Your writi...Wow. This has brought tears to my eyes. Your writing is amazing! I can understand all of these feelings as I went through an isolated stage when my girl was younger, and even now we cannot be as social as a family as I'd like to be. We are not quite as restricted as you, but I know that feeling of always weighing up whether it is worth going out at all, and who the trip would benefit and at what cost. It is exhausting, and we too often have to adopt the split family life so our eldest gets some exposure to how life could have been :( I totally empathise with all your feelings about the sibling also - in lots of ways I have more worries in life for our eldest girl who has had to learn to compromise so much more than other children do. I'm hoping that you all have some support or respite to help you through this (and that your wife has someone to talk with who understands how it is for her?). I also hope that the change to the new school does mean more support and less chaos for you all. xStephs Two Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09592292485187553690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-32390011654774425492014-06-27T14:55:34.879+01:002014-06-27T14:55:34.879+01:00You write so beautifully. I'm so lucky that yo...You write so beautifully. I'm so lucky that you articulate to all that read this what we both go through. I couldn't hope to. Xx Your Wife Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-42850159041896707332014-06-27T13:18:33.322+01:002014-06-27T13:18:33.322+01:00My dearest Matty
I struggle to find the words. Onc...My dearest Matty<br />I struggle to find the words. Once again, I'm at my little café enjoying the calm at the beginning of my day and without warning your blog crashes over my horizon with the indiscriminate force of an asteroid. But this time with a laser-sharp delineation of your, Isaac's and Eliza's current state of mind (and family life).<br />With every blog, though, you manage to inspire each one of us to lift our thoughts beyond the present, and despite autism's lifelong condition, to see a place were Isaac can acquire those coping strategies that will allow him to enjoy to the full his special position in our family that you so lovingly describe.<br />May that place not be further away than his new school. And may the 'Happy' Isaac we know and adore be the Isaac he knows and is at peace with too. With fondest love always, PxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-20797149043883524332014-06-27T10:05:19.993+01:002014-06-27T10:05:19.993+01:00Matty, another from-the-heart, honest and educatio...Matty, another from-the-heart, honest and educational read. What an amazing family you are xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3291060742081310510.post-27946844506732045472014-06-27T09:46:03.860+01:002014-06-27T09:46:03.860+01:00Many days, my wife has to simply claw her way thro...Many days, my wife has to simply claw her way through catastrophe to get to even keel. <br /><br />Great line. Exactly this! Totally identify.<br /><br />Our son was in mainstream school for first two years. He started special school in September, so nearly a year complete. Life is still a challenge but his anxiety levels are greatly reduced and so is the rigid, controlling behaviour in the house. Sometimes change of environment can help. Alison (mum to 7 year old with ASD, UK)<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com